Needing your advice

Published by: Infidel on 21st Feb 2010 | View all blogs by Infidel
I've talked about my friend and how he doesn't understand my deconversion and how he sent me a magazine article that he thought would win me back.

I think he was stunned when I shredded the article (I was nice!) and sent it back with my "comments".  I posted part of his last reply about trusting the word, etc and some of you have commented on it. Thanks.

I've been out of town for a few days and have had some time to think about what to do and I just don't know. So I'm asking your advice.

While my friend and I are still on speaking terms as far as I know, we are at an impasse. I am no longer a Christian. I have what I believe to be valid reasons to at the very least, doubt the veracity of the bible. My friend is a believer and based on his last couple of emails, is not willing to even consider the possibility that what I have concluded is correct.

So, where do I go from here? His social life is wrapped up in his belief system. This of course makes it difficult because I am no longer part of that system.

I'm at a loss.

Comments

2 Comments

  • Mystery Porcupine
    by Mystery Porcupine 5 months ago
    Do you two have anything that you used to do together that did not revolve around church? If not, do you share any hobbies that you know of? I guess that is the only thing I can think of - if you share something else besides faith, try to tap into that and plan a "friend date" to hang out and do something fun. You could even suggest up front that you leave the faith discussion alone for a while and just have some fun. If you don't share anything but faith, then there is really no reason to pursue the friendship. This is the hard realization I've had about friendships as I've gotten older and shed religion. Friendships aren't really about "unconditional love." They are about shared interests and fun. If you don't have shared interests and fun, chances are all you have is memories or dependency, neither of which is really friendship. I hope you can make a decision you feel good about, all things considered. This just isn't easy.
  • Infidel
    by Infidel 5 months ago
    I'm afraid your right, Mystery.

    My friend and I don't (didn't) really have anything other than religion in common and he is very involved with the church.

    I don't see another answer. I was hoping that someone on this site might.

    Sigh
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