The impact of my apostasy on my little brother

Published by: Snuggly Buffalo on 29th Dec 2009 | View all blogs by Snuggly Buffalo

Last night, while talking to my little brother, that my mother and sister have been talking about how "stupid" my arguments are when I defend my position. This doesn't really bother me, I've long since stopped caring what my family thinks of my atheism. If anything I'm amused by the accusation of stupid arguments coming from a couple of college dropouts who don't know the first thing about logic. My brother, on the other hand, doesn't seem content to leave well enough alone, and decided to stand up for me since I wasn't around to do it myself.

I'm a little torn about this turn of events. It means a lot that he's willing to defend me, even if he doesn't necessarilly agree with me (at least not yet). On the other hand, he's already in enough trouble with my mother for asking some hard questions about Christianity. Standing up for his atheist brother is not going to make things easier for him.

I think I need to talk to him about letting things like this slide for the time being, at least until he finishes high school this spring and can move out. I appreciate it, but I don't really need to be defended, especially if it's just going to end up getting him burned (it's certainly not going to change my mom's opinion). Choose your battles, and all that.

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  • LeoPardus
    by LeoPardus 7 months ago
    You're right and wise. I think you said your brother is high school age right? Yes, talk with him about just what you said. Let him know how much you appreciate his support, let him know that your mom and sister's opinions don't bother you, and let him know that the grief they'll give him isn't worth it. At most he should just say, "Listen mom/sis, you can have you opinion of SB, but he's my brother, I love him, and I'm tired of hearing him ripped by people who are supposed to love him. I can't stop you from doing it, but know this: I do not like it one bit. And is constantly belittling him really the 'Christian' thing to do? If so, where's that in your Bible?" [Note: that last might set a couple of Bible-ignorant fundies off, so maybe it's not so good.]

    Anyway, sounds like you've got sound advice for your little bro.
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